Yes to F 'n' L

 Jambo!

Welcome to our space (you and I), let's get cosier here and have the time of our lives!

I have a feeling you got bored with the inconsistency and it is as though it is not pardonable anymore. 

I still dare bring myself before you; for the sake of what we shared,  the love, the boredom, the look for new truth and just anything that held us from the start. 

I am here to address F for friendship and L for love today.  

Nothing new. 

I am no expert at either but I am quite sure we are taking a bite at learning of these each second, minute, hour and day of our lives. 

There are so many quotes on friendship nowadays and there's so much to be said about good and bad friends. 

The same goes for love. Love has been labelled beautiful and at times it's fruits have been bitter if 'fake' as social media informs us. Love has made the world go round and has stopped it by the second at the same time. 

These two terms are somehow intertwined. Friendships are founded on love and love on friendship,  is that right? 

But let's look at it this way. There is this person you met yesterday and you exchanged contacts and tomorrow you meet at a different place and greet each other from a point of knowing each other after your first interraction,  is that a friend?

Is there a chance you consider that person a stranger ? 

Yours is sheer honesty.😆

For me, that person would be my friend. But is there love between you two already? 

Yes. The fact that you can meet and smile at each other or acknowledge meeting each other makes it a friendship, though in its primal stages. 

So you now know, as long as you are in my contact list after one encounter, you are my Friend😂, please! 

So in friendship, there's are mix of so much. You might be of different personalities, likes, thoughts, upbringing, religion, tribes, races, and so much more yet you might share a bit of the same amongst those. 

Love being the basis of the friendship or maybe the vice-versa, I will go with the dictionary description for love first, 'a profound and caring affection towards someone'. Can we skip really quick to the most referenced Bible verse on love after John 3:16... "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

Back to the person you met yesterday. Were you kind? Were you patient with them while they took their sweet time in the bathroom? You might have kept record of how they stepped on your brand new clarks with their cheap badly muddy rubber shoes😁. Did you hope you would meet them soon?-because love hopes😀.

All this is evident love for the so called 'stranger'.

It is from the interaction here and there  that love brews up and not only that, a friendship is also formed. I am not so sure what comes first as that could have a whole discussion of its own. It's probably friendship though,  as I hear advice running around for lovers to marry their best friends. Let's assume so then, that friendship comes first and love later. 

Friendship on the other hand is the state or condition of being friends and a friend is a person other than a family member, spouse or lover whose company one enjoys and towards whom one feels affection. 

I hope you were keen enough to notice that both words have a common denominator ~affection. That should at least bring us to a common belief of love and friendship being so closely related. 

It is however a total wonder how social media has badmouthed these two terms.  

Before concluding that it is social media, could it be that we have been mis-informed on how friendships should look like? Could it be that our view on love is that blurred to see the good, so it focuses on the cons? If not,  social media is to blame. 

Social media has made love seem so shallow. It has been painted as though it should not take time and that the slightest failure in expectation is not love (it is another debatable issue) .

Mine is to call you to define love your own way. You might have been told that how you love is not how it ought to be. You might be loving too recklessly and too deeply (which is okay) and the society feels you should not do so. You might have had issues loving and it is totally fine. You just have to define love and I hope you have a good description for it. 

The same goes friendship. Just because your friend has taken his or her rest and needs some space does not warrant you to go posting on socials how bad of friends they are. That friend of yours might have lost your contact and that's why she's not checking up on you, it is not that she's already grown a hatred tree. Those are just minor instances to mention. 

As much as friendship and love can come just after an encounter, there needs to be a cultivation at them. There needs to be time put in and all that is listed in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 needs to be considered even in friendship. 

We truly need to  redefine the F and L terms. Post that you will be able to apply them correspondingly.

As we have the meaning, let's be good friends and lovers. Yes lovers. Makes the world a better place, full of good vibes. 

It's been my time lovely and lovable friends😀.

Till next time. 

Bye.